Living Life at Eighty
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This was a week of reflections.  At eighty we have many years to look back upon and to think about what really matters.  This week my partner also turned eighty.  Although we did not know each other until we were in our seventies, we experienced many of the same events growing up.  At a birthday celebration with our family this week we were asked two questions:  Which five news events stood out to us and which five personal events were very important to us?  The explanations were long and sometimes similar so in each category we each got to share two.  It is a conversation I hope that we will continue the next time we get together with our families.

It was interesting that we both talked about the events that stood out to us in the 1960’s.  We talked about the Vietnam War and how our experiences led us into very different paths.  We talked about the Kennedy assassination and the Civil Rights Movement and the Women’s Movement as well.  At the same time twice, this week I read comments and questions from younger generations asking “Boomers” how they got through the turmoil of the sixties without losing hope.  They asked for advice on how to deal with what is happening in our country today.  I spent some time reflecting on those times and how we dealt with it. 

As with everything in life, my experience does not mean that it was the same for everyone. I believed and still do that we were fighting for change and for a better world in the sixties.  We were fighting for equality.  We believed that we could make things better and I think we did. Although we tried, life is not perfect and not the same for all people. I understand that but, in my youth, I may not have been fully aware of that fact. We did move things forward and as with any movement for change it was and continues to be slow and ongoing.

 Now, we are fighting to not lose the rights that so many people take for granted and have never lived without.  If you have never lived when women could not have a credit card in their own name or were asked if they were going to get married or have children before they could be hired you don’t know what that is like. Compared to the problems of today that might not seem like much. It is if they are rights you now possess and may lose. I hope that what we did in the sixties matters just as I hope that the marches and phone calls to our representatives matter today.  We need to make sure that our voices are heard and that the people who need us, whether we know them or not, understand that they matter, that we care, and that they are not alone.

I know that when you and I look back upon this time in history we will remember that it was very difficult and one we never want to experience again.  I also hope that everyone will be able to recall what they did during this turbulent time with pride. I hope that when down the road you are sitting with your sons and daughters, grandchildren, and great grandchildren you will be able to explain what steps you took, no matter how small, to make the world a better place for them.  Today’s youth are becoming more and more involved in the fight to save our democracy.  This will help future generations know what steps to take to continue to make our country and the world a place where everyone is free, safe and feels that they too matter!

Remember:  When you share your gifts and talents with the world magic happens.
                                                         Let the Magic Begin!
                                                                          Ginny

Almost two weeks ago I decided that I would document at least for a year what living life at 80 would be like. I know that it is a privilege to reach this age and that we all age differently.  I wanted to share what my version of being 80  looks and feels like. I think that the title of my blog is perfect for what I will be writing about this year for this is a very Special Moment in Time that I hope to embrace and enjoy to the fullest. 
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It has not even been two weeks since I turned 80 but the days and nights and weeks seem to go quicker every year so I thought I better get started writing or before I know it I will be turning 81.  As I wrote on Facebook, I am facing this new decade with excitement as well as curiosity about what adventures are just around the corner.  What I didn’t explain was that aging has always been something I dreaded.  I had a mother who lived life to the fullest but who never wanted to get old and that was instilled in me from a very young age. About three years ago I did a deep dive into ageism and found that it is real.  I decided the first person’s attitude I needed to change was mine. I had to look at getting older as something to be proud of rather than something to hide.  I stopped thinking it was the beginning of the end but rather the start of something new.  I stopped thinking that certain things would change based solely on the number of years I lived. 

I remember when I began teaching at age 35. I was sure I would retire at age 60.  I used to laugh that I would be too old to walk down the halls and keep up with the kids. When I reached 60 I realized that nothing was further from the truth.  I did retire but that was not the reason.  I was hired as a principal to open a charter school.  I retired when I realized that my vision for the school did not match that of the management company.  It had nothing to do with my age.

In my seventies I learned to live a full life as a widow, ran for Georgia State House of Representatives, was Chair of the County Democratic Party, and so much more. At 60 I could never have predicted what life would look or feel like at 70 so now beginning my 80th year I am not going predict what life will bring or let ageism set any limitations on what I can or cannot do. I have many friends of all ages and I hope that my posts will remind them not to let society or their age limit how they think or what they can accomplish.  We are never too young or too old to accomplish great things that can change both our own life and the lives of others.  

This will not be a political blog but politics and what is happening in our country will be part of what I will write about. We are living in a difficult time. I remember protesting during the Vietnam war and marching for Civil Rights. Although there were periods during my life when I was not involved in politics, this will not be one of them. I believe we must stand up for what we believe in and what is right. To ignore what is happening all around us is not something I can do. I think we all have special gifts and talents and we can and should use them to help those in need.  I received the following message from Maria Shriver this morning. She wrote, “Let us remember to lead with love over fear, with facts over lies, and with compassion over judgment.”  I think that is very good advice that I will carry with me over the days to come.  

I hope that you have a very productive and happy week.  And remember:

                        When you use your gifts and talents, magic happens.  Let the magic begin!
                                                               Ginny

As you know, this blog is called Special Moments in Time.  When I started this blog I thought I would always be sharing the positive things that happened in my life with my family, friends and readers who would become like family and friends.  Today's post is different.  This is a special moment in time but for me different than most of the other special moments I wrote about over the years.  Today, I feel like how the beach above looked the day I walked on it. It was a cold cloudy day and the beach was filled with driftwood that looked lonely and sad.  It is actually a very moving beach on Jekyll Island in Georgia which can evoke a variety of reactions. Today the picture above evokes a quiet feeling of uncertainty which parallels the world that swirls around me. 

We live in a time where there is much upheaval and change going on from minute to minute in the United States.  People that I speak to are very afraid of what is happening and uncertain of how the changes will affect them or those they love.  As we learn that the things we have always counted on may be dismantled and watch those we strongly disagree with move forward with  plans that will disrupt our lives, what can we do?  That is the question I hear most often, "What Can We Do?"

I too am trying to figure out what I can do.  We are all different and have to find the things that will work best for us. There are people who would rather not know what is happening and deliberately stay uninformed.  That is not me.  I truly believe the saying, "Knowledge is Power."  I try to read and listen to the voices of the people I respect and who are in a position to know more than I do.  I do my due diligence and fact check as much as I can.  I try not to overreact or overthink things as I have a tendency to do.

We need to let our Representatives and Senators know how we feel about the decisions they are making or not making.  If your Congressman is doing what you like be sure to thank him or her.  If you disagree with them, let them know.  They work for you.  It does not take long to make a phone call or send a text. And it can make a difference if enough of us contact them and let them know how we feel.

Go to your local political meetings and get to know the people who support the ideas you believe in. 2026 will be here before you know it.  Encourage candidates to run for office. Once they announce they are running support them in every way you can.  Local government can make a difference. Change begins from the bottom up, not the top down. Get involved now.  Don't wait.  Do you have a special skill? Don't take it for granted.  Let people know what you can do and how you want to help.  

We need to work hard to make sure that our country does not turn into a place we do not recognize.  Our children and grandchildren are counting on us to protect the freedoms that so many have worked hard for and fought for,  We can't look away and pretend what is happening is not taking place. It is important that we do all that we can do while at the same time taking care of ourselves.  We need to take a break when we need it.  For me it has been watching fun stories on TV or reading light material.  It's been meeting friends for lunch or taking a walk.  It is planning a short trip and looking forward to seeing the ocean.  For you it will be something different. It is important that no matter what you do, that you do it to take care of yourself.  

I started this by saying this is a Special Moment in Time.  It is.  It's not the kind of special moment I ever wanted to experience but it is here and we have to do what we can to protect ourselves and the values that make this country special.  There will be a time when we look back and wonder how this could have happened. There will come a day when we will rejoice that this period in time is over. What will you tell others you did to make our world a better place while still taking care of yourself? 

                When you share your gifts and talents with the world magic happens. Let the magic begin!

                                                          57 days left until Election Day

When I was coaching and blogging on a regular basis I always ended my blog post with the words,
       When you share your gifts and talents with the world, magic happens.  Let the magic begin!

What if we all shared our gifts and talents with the world for the next 57 days to help Kamala Harris and Tim Walz win the election? Nothing that we do is too little or too big.  A phone call to a friend to encourage them to register to vote is important.  Explaining why you think Harris and Walz are the best choice to lead our country to someone undecided may help them make the best decision for them. Having your own postcard party, texting voters, driving people to the polls all make a huge difference. Are you an artist?  Share your artwork.  Do you like to write?  Write an opinion piece to the local paper explaining why you think this is the most important election in a very long time.  Wear your Chucks, your pearls, or your Harris/Walz T-shirts as you go about your daily life. People will notice and know that they are not alone especially if you live in a very red county like I do. What you do makes a difference.  We have 57 days left to make a difference in how the country will be for not only ourselves but for our children and grandchildren. Let’s make the most of those 57 days.

I would love to know how you will share your gifts and talents with the world this election season.  Your ideas may encourage others to do the same. Now is the time to:
                                                Let the magic begin!

                              Today is my birthday.  I turn 78 today which is amazing. 

At one time I looked at age as something to be afraid of, but as I celebrate each year I realize how lucky I am to be able to experience so many wonderful things.  This past year I spent time reading and discussing ageism with anyone who would listen to me.

We live in a country where very often aging is not something to be admired but frowned upon. It is the stories we tell ourselves or that are told to us from the time we are young that can influence the way we think and act about aging.. Ads we see and read are all anti-aging. People are often made to look or sound silly, scared or confused.  Stories of wisdom or experience are not valued or celebrated as much as they once were.

The way we personally think about aging can be changed. It starts with what we tell ourselves and how we speak about ourselves as well as others. Remaining curious, asking questions, learning new things and meeting new people helps us to remain vibrant and relevant. Not paying attention to how others believe we should act or live but setting our own goals and sharing those goals with people, both young and old, can be inspirational for everyone involved.  

Ageism is the one prejudice we all have the possibility of experiencing.  Everyone who lives will get older.  It doesn't matter what your gender, race or socio-economic status is, if you get older you face the possibility of encountering ageism in the workplace and in everyday life.  One of my goals for this year is to learn more about ageism and to focus a light on it.  I want to focus on how we combat ageism. It would be wonderful if instead of being afraid of aging we celebrate the fact that with each day we live we get to experience new things, meet new people, gain wisdom, and have more fun. 

The title of this blog is Special Moments in Time.  Each day is filled with special moments.  We just need to slow down and begin to notice them. Today turning 78 was filled with special moments. Beginning to write this blog once again was definitely a special moment that I hope will begin a new love of writing. I hope you too will notice the special moments in your life each day. 

                                    Has ageism affected your life or how you feel about getting older?  

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                When you share your dreams and talent with the world, magic happens.  Let the magic begin.
                                                                                      Ginny

It's been an interesting two days.  Taking new classes and meeting new people always inspires me.  It always fascinates me to talk to someone new and learn about their life and how they got to be where they are now.  Yesterday I met Donnie Osmond's cousin and today I met four women who had spent a lifetime doing incredibly meaningful and interesting work.  They are all still actively involved in making the world a better place for generations to come.  

In class yesterday the facilitator asked "Where were you when integration took place?  Since this was a room full of people who were either in high school or college at the time it was very interesting to hear where they were and what was taking place around them.  The facilitator believes that what was happening around you at that time influences how you feel about politics now.  Thus, the reason for today's title - Looking back - Moving Forward

One of the questions I often ask clients who are stuck is, "What worked in the past?"  Whether it is a problem moving forward with a project, starting a diet or looking for a new job thinking about the strategies that you used in the past that worked (and did not work) can often be very helpful.  I know for me vocalizing what is happening has always made a difference.  The other person doesn't have to say a word. Listening is enough.  If they give me a solution, I'll listen but most of the time I know I have the answer within.  I just need to vocalize situation and then listen for the answer. 

Is there something you would like to do but just can't seem to get started?  Ask yourself, "What worked in the past when I was stuck?"  Give yourself some quiet time to find the answer.  It doesn't always appear immediately.  But when it does, listen to your inner voice and take the steps necessary to begin to move forward.  The first step is always the hardest but it is so worth the risk.  

On Friday I'll post about the importance of taking very small steps and how without realizing it they can make a really big difference  in your life.

Out of curiousity - where were you when integration was taking place?  Did it make a difference in your life or the lives of others you know?

It's been a long time.  Almost a year since my last blog post.  A few weeks ago I received an email from someone who said, "I happened upon your blog.  I noticed you have not posted in a long time but are you still coaching?"  I am so glad that she took the time to reach out.  Not only could I say yes I was still coaching but I also realized just how long it had been since my last blog post.  And thinking about blogging made me realize that I miss it.  I not only miss writing but I miss the people I met because of my blog.

I started my blog as a way to express myself when my husband was fighting Pulmonary Hypertension.  Through it I met many wonderful people in all parts of the world.  Through some of those people I learned about coaching and became a Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coach.  I never had to leave home to meet with clients (although I did) and I learned so many things from the many people I worked with.  Along with working with individual clients, I've held online workshops and year long in person workshops too.  It's wonderful to be there when a client has an Aha moment and begins to move forward on a project or a new direction in their life.  

I named my blog Special Moments In Time because when you are fighting a rare disease, like the one Greg had, it's easy to lose sight of the wonderful things that are happening all around you.  So we would end each day sharing something special that we had experienced.  It was usually something very simple but as we moved through his nine year journey we realized more and more that it was the simple things that made the difference.

I've toyed with changing the name of my blog but decided to keep it the same.  Life is very different now but there are still special moments each day.  I just have to remember to look for them.  I'm still coaching and meeting new people and I still love creativity and learning and talking for hours with people who share a common interest.  But I've added some new things to the life I am creating now.  I've become really interested in politics and what is happening in our world.  I have very strong opinions but I truly want to understand the opinions of others.  I don't think the world can get better unless we work together and we can't do that unless we talk.  I never knew how much I could enjoy a Sunday afternoon movie or that cooking could actually be fun.  Life as a widow is not easy.  But almost all of the strategies I have learn to help clients create their life or project have been a really big help to me as well.  

I'm not sure where this new blog with the same name will take me.  I've been encouraged to write about being a widow and to share what works for me.  I may do that.  I know that I will continue to share coaching tips and to talk about creativity.  I may even throw in a political post or two.  I'm hoping that as before this blog will encourage me to take pictures and paint more. I'm hoping it will encourage you to share your creativity too.  

​I'll be back on Wednesday to share a little about the class I am taking today.   It's about the Constitution.  Who knew last year at this time this would be something I would be interested in?  That's what is exciting about this journey called life.  You never know where it will take you.  See you on Wednesday!
Ginny

PS  I would love to know what you have been doing!  

Hi Everyone!  It's great to be back.  I've been away from the computer for almost a month.  I have been using my IPad to stay in touch but I have not been writing as I usually do and I have to admit that I've missed it.  I miss the time I spend thinking about what I am going to write and then writing.  I miss actually writing the post and then receiving a comment or two.  I miss sharing my thoughts and learning about what you think.  I miss the friendships that I've made and the conversations we've shared because of our mutual love of blogging.

For the past month I have been thinking quite a bit about what I'd like to add to my life. I really miss the great conversations that my husband and I used to have.  We definitely didn't agree all of the time and that's what made the conversations so much fun.  We listened, we shared our point of views, we argued our points and sometimes we agreed and sometimes we agreed to disagree.  But we always grew from each discussion.
 
The same thing happened when I was working. Each week I would meet with the teachers and we would talk about what was happening next.  We would listen to each other, share ideas and work on problems.  Again, we didn't always agree but we worked together for the benefit of the kids.

Lately, I feel that there is a lack of deep conversations not only in my life but the world.  And as so often happens I find more and more things to read that seem to echo my thoughts.  Politics is often a subject people cannot seem to talk about easily and yet we need to understand each other and why or how we reach our ideas or convictions.  I recently read an article talking about how when we disagree with someone it is often more important to really listen than to talk.  When we listen we can find out what the person has experienced to bring them to their feelings. Hopefully, they will then take the time to listen to us as well.  Then the conversation can begin.  

So I think I may change the direction of my blog a little.  I hope that we can begin to have conversations not only about art and creativity but about what is going on in the world as well.  I would love to know what you are thinking and I promise to listen and to tell you what I think too.  So to begin this conversation I'd like to ask, "If you meet someone who sees or experiences the world differently than you do, what type of conversations do you have or would you like to have?"

                     I hope everyone has a great week filled with lots of interesting conversations!

                                                                                                                       Ginny

 

                    "It is not wrong to go back to that which you have forgotten."  West African Proverb

When I first started painting I would only use watercolors.  Then it was watercolor pencils and for the past several years it has been pastels.  I loved the way the pastels felt on my fingers as I moved them across the paper.  But suddenly my watercolors have been calling me again.  The funny thing is I feel as though I am beginning all over again. Things don't come as naturally as they once did.  But I am sure with practice and patience it will feel familiar before long. 

Practice and patience.  Those are two important words.  It is hard to get better at anything in life without practice and for most of us patience.  So as I begin to work with my watercolors once again I will remember those two words -  practice and patience.  I used them for years with my yoga and I did get better.  I relied on them when I wanted to become a better and better teacher and now creative living coach.  And now I'll repeat them again each time I begin to paint.  Practice and patience.  It will be interesting to see just how far those two simple words will take me.  I think that will be my new mantra - Practice and Patience!  It feels just right.

           Do you have a mantra or affirmation that you say to help you stay focused?  I would love to hear it.

          When you share your dreams and your talent with the world, magic happens.  Let the magic begin!

                               The person you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself.  
                                 So you better try to make yourself as interesting as possible.  Pinterest
   
The above quote showed up in my inbox as a quote I might like from Pinterest this morning.  It was the perfect nudge I needed to get me moving again.  Traveling through this journey of grief and widowhood is not easy.  I don't write about it often but it is part of me every moment of every day.  But that is a blog post for another day.  

As I began to ponder the quote above I realized that it is time to reassess where I am.  The awareness piece of living a creative life is very important.  We are always changing. Sometimes it is a big change that we have no control over while other times it is a change that we have made ourselves but have not yet fully embraced.  So I asked myself a question which hopefully will lead to an interesting answer.  "What would make my day/life/me more interesting?"  I've begun to think about this. I'm giving myself time to answer my question.  I may journal about it and see what appears.  I may make a collage or paint a picture to help me discover more about where I want to go and what I want to do.  A class might help. Talking to others may give me fresh ideas. And even if I don't get my answer right away doing all of these things can't help but make my life more interesting. So what about you?

            We all spend a lot of time with ourselves.  What do you do to make yourself as interesting as possible?

               When you share your dreams and your talent with the world, magic happens.  Let the magic begin!
                                                                                                              Ginny


As a creativity coach I help people use the Kaizen-Muse principles of creativity to overcome procrastination, perfectionism and overwhelm.  Whether you are creating the life you always wanted to live, starting a new business, writing a book, or beginning a new adventure the principles that I share  will help you not only get started but continue to move forward.  If you are interested in talking, please let me know at [email protected]  Remember the first 30 minute session is always free so that we can get to know each other.